Friday, January 30, 2009

Rustom, aka Bebe Gandanghari, Talks About Gay Rights

Many years ago he was famous as Rustom Padilla. He was one of a brood of actor brothers, famous in his own right. He was also married to an actress, Carmina Villaroel. In 2002 he left for the U.S. to study film. At the same time he reflected on his life and began to grow in understanding and conviction until one day he decides to come out and in his own words, “accept who I am.”

This was Rustom Padilla then and Bebe Gandanghari today. What went through Rustom’s mind, heart and soul during those trying times when he said, “Nagpanggap din ako,” (I pretended too) until he finally decided to come out and declare to all and sundry who he really is, is the subject of this AHRC interview.



Bebe’s insight into his own process of coming out and acceptance is fundamental to an understanding of gay rights. Even according to Bebe, his identity is not a choice but a gradual acceptance of an orientation which did not happen overnight. Every part of the process of awareness, acceptance and coming out is not to be taken simplistically and dismissively.

Giving voice to one’s person is not an issue among typical male and female members of society We hear them all the time, a male or a female doctor, a female or a male lawyer, a priest or a nun, etc. Gay’s do speak but in certain societies in hush tones and hidden corners. Indeed, there are Asian societies where their voices are considered a public disturbance. Bebe explains how different his experience is among Filipinos, women in particular. “For some reason they seem to like me and even identify with me,” explains Bebe. Why do they like her? What do they exactly like about her?

Notwithstanding some unfavourable past experiences with some family members, colleagues and others, Bebe finds Philippine society not that bad. However, she really felt free and encouraged to come out when he was in the U.S. Coming to voice is easier in a less judgmental and open society.

Bebe’s coming out is not a purely psycho-emotional experience. “It is more, ” he explains.”It is being able to stand naked before God…being able to be yourself before God,” she adds. “Be as you are…be as you are supposed to be…that is what BeBe means,” she explains.

Listening to one gay person, allowing her to speak, to come to voice is fundamental to understanding gay rights. Fr. Robert Reyes, explains that his previous judgmental and homophobic attitude towards gay was only corrected, perhaps somehow cured through actual and particular encounters with gays. Avoidance, ignoring, rejection simply promotes the prejudice and the unwillingness to understand, accept and ultimately respect gays as persons with rights like everyone else.

About AHRC: The Asian Human Rights Commission is a regional non-governmental organisation monitoring and lobbying human rights issues in Asia. The Hong Kong-based group was founded in 1984.

Bebe Gandanghari - The Buzz true confession

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Shane Mercado performed Beyonces Single Ladies Dance


Shane Mercado is becoming an internet sensation.... I think he is great... and dance better than Beyonce.... don't ya think?.. lol!

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Wowowie Bi couple contestants

I've watched these couple in Wowowie and i think their so much in love...and i admire them, b'coz it takes a lot of courage to tell the whole world their feelings for each other... especially in their case.... and i wish them happiness! go girls!

watch the video here.

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Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Rin on the Rox - New Youtube Sensation

Another Pinays are making noise on the internet and they are called Rin on the Rox. They were invited by Ellen to appear on her show just like what she did to Charice Pempengco.... Will they also make it big in the US of A?.... we'll see...

In fairness they got the voice and the looks....

Watch Rin on the Rox sings Beyonces "If I Were A Boy"

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Saturday, January 24, 2009

Prayers for Bobby


Mother, May I Sleep With Sin?

Suicide spawns an A-list gay rights crusader.
By Justin Ocean

Based on a true story. Inspired by actual events. In the hands of Lifetime those words usually call to mind scenes from some campy stalk-a-thon starring Tori Spelling. But Prayers for Bobby, a biopic directed by Russell Mulcahy (Showtime’s Queer as Folk), stars Sigourney Weaver as Mary Griffith, a 1970s fundamentalist bigot turned crusading PFLAG hero after the suicide of her gay son. So perhaps the network is changing course, snaring conservative Midwest moms with the film’s boldface name -- and doing some good as well. (Stat attack: Gay youths are four times more likely to attempt suicide than their heterosexual peers.)

“We’re hoping that with an A-lister like Sigourney people will be intrigued to go outside their box and watch it,” says Ryan Kelley (above with Weaver), who, thanks to lessons from his gay friends’ own coming-out traumas, plays titular twink Bobby with a teary pathos. “Whether closed-minded people want to believe it or not, someone they know and love is probably gay,” he says. “When people were talking about ‘Yes on Prop. 8,’ someone there was hurting.”

Kelley continues, “One of my favorite lines in the film is ‘Stop and think: A child could be listening, which is Mary Griffith’s admonition that everyday, offhand intolerance is often the most cutting. “It would be amazing to change even one mind [with this film]. One mind -- that’s enough.”

"Prayers for Bobby" Trailer


Interview with Sigourney Weaver on The View


Prayers for Bobby premieres January 24 on Lifetime.

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Hot New Talent: Noah

I'm absolutely mesmerized by Noah and his new track, "Real Life," which is the first single from the Canadian pop singer's forthcoming debut album, titled "Human Geometry."

Produced by ArjanWrites.com reader Monsieur Adi, "Real Life" is a sleek and stylish blend of electronica, pop and dance featuring an elegant, clean beat, sidechained strings and synths, and Noah's vocodered vocals. Interestingly, the production also incorporates some subtle world beat instrumentation, which gives the track a very organic, lasting quality.

"'Real Life' is about moving beyond the yearning for a better life, and shaping up and taking control," Noah writes me. "The yearning is so strong that it renders you unable to move - unable to take the first step. It was like the voice in your head repeating over and over and over again, and I decided to make it a lightly computerized voice because I felt like it was talking to me as I sat in front of it, unable to work."


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Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Indie Film - The "Thank you" Girls


"The 'Thank You' Girls" is a Visayan film with a gay lingo twist.

Tired of losing in all the beauty competitions in Davao City, five dysfunctional gay beauty pageant veterans decide to travel north to Cagayan de Oro City, in the island of Mindanao.

Their mission: to conquer the grandest competition of beauty, personality and brains in the whole province.

They believe that being city dwellers, gays in the province will never stand a chance against them.

Watch the trailer

Manila Regular Screening
Jan 21-27, 2009, Robinsons Indie Sine

For more infos check www.thethankyougirls.com

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Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Losing My Equanimity by: luigi

Two weeks ago, I found my ex on my doorstep. I guess the fuckin' asshole prepared for that day as he looked so nice and handsome in his orange shirt and black Levi's. When I opened the door, I was surprised to get a kiss from the devil who once crumpled my heart. I wanted to cuss, curse him and kick him off. But I was so unprepared, caught unaware and was taken aback. I was too weak to give him a punch on the nose and all I said was... "Kamusta?" He embraced me and didn't let go for about five minutes. I was stunned. Speechless and... TORN.

Oh, fuck, Luigi! Where the hell's your ego? -- my brain screamed. I realized then that my pride was scattered all over the floor. It was wrecked. Fortunately, I was able to find a few moments to grasp some air and grab a little courage to finally sy, "come in." A plan was working on my mind. I had to show Emmanuel that I am perfectly okay and that I will respectfully ask him to leave later on… So I thought.

Emmanuel stayed for a few hours. He was embracing me, tenderly kissing me and saying out of this fuckin' world cliches that I heard from several movies before:

I miss you so much.
I shouldn't have left you.
I made a big mistake.
I regret what I've done.
I am sorry I caused you pain.
I can't help but compare him to you and I found out I'm better off
with you.
I want you back.
I still love you.
Ad infinitum... Ad infinitum.

For a brief moment, I almost lost my senses. But as he continued luring me, I realized that hey, after what he has done to me, does he still deserve me? Look, I have been faithful to him. I gave my 100% and never left anything for myself. I loved him so much for heaven's sake! And I respected him! But he just ignored all my efforts then, so what's the use of giving him another chance to once again stab my heart, which during that time, was starting to recuperate from the pain he's inflicted.

So here's what happened according to my supposed plan: I cooked for Emmanuel. I made sure that he got what he used to have before, a good "pag-aalaga" which he always got from me and I believe he never had from his present boyfriend (apparently, he broke up with him that's why he came back -- according to him). I cooked his favorite meal, I played his favorite music, I had him seated on his favorite chair, sprayed on his favorite air freshener, turned on the aircon at the temperature he preferred and opened a box of his favorite chocolate (good thing my ref was full).

He felt at home. And he said, he finally knew what he's been longing for, for the months that he was with his new partner – my presence. Not exactly me, but all the things I used to do for him. We talked for about an hour. Emmanuel told me that there was this one time when he felt my presence when Marco (let's call his present lover by this name) asked him to go home early and when he did, he was surprised to see a candle lit dinner with his favorite kare-kare served with ultra spicy bagoong and one fresh white rose (his favorite flower) on the side of his plate neatly placed with a bottle of his favorite gatorade blue. He thought it was a deja vu. He suddenly remembered me. Why wouldn't he? It's the exact re-enactment of what happened on our first month-sary celebration. He said he was perplexed, but very much moved by what Marco did. After their dinner, he found his toothbrush (with toothpaste and a glass of water) already prepared with his towel and pyjamas (the thing I did for him every single night before).

Emmanuel told me that during that night, he thought that he was with me. Just imagine how much of an ass my ex was. Marco did all that would make him happy and yet he was thinking of me. But then, he was right about that thought because when Marco went to the bathroom to take a bath, Emmanuel checked Marco's inbox and stupid Marco, he didn't erase the message I sent him on how to surprise Emmanuel.

Yes, the idea all came from me. I emailed Marco and told him to do all those things to make my ex happy... And yes, I was too martyr to do it for Marco. Call it unconditional stupid love for Emmanuel, but don't blame me, all I wanted was for this fuckin' ex of mine to be happy with whom he has chosen to be with. So much about me. Anyway, all of Emmanuel's excitement vanished when he learned that everything Marco did for him that night came from me. He was disappointed and guilty because of what I've done – texting and emailing the guy who stole him from me (cheers for me!).

Emmanuel told me that Marco and I were way too far from each other. He missed my presence. The care and love I gave him. The importance he felt. The presence he has always wanted. And so he asked me if I'd welcome him back.

I said NO. And he left. His spirit was down, disappointment and regret emanated from his face. He's not good at hiding emotions, you know. When he left, he said one last phrase: "Baby, I will not stop from here..."

Think I was victorious? No. I cried when he left...

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This World is Watching Me...


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CHARICE - STANDING OVATION - GOD BLESS AMERICA!

another standing ovation for our very own,philippine's pride,youngest diva, charice pempengco, the only filipino artist who performed live at the pre-inaugural ball party of president-elect barack obama in washington,d.c. (jan.18,2009)



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Sunday, January 18, 2009

MMK - Boarding House

I watched it with my nephews and their mothers... at first I was uneasy watching it with them for reasons I don't know... maybe I'm scared somebody might comment or say something negative about gays, but as the story goes it washes away all my fears... MMK presented the story in all honesty....it has a substance. It's not biased.... and it tackles both the bright and the dark sides of homosexuality.. I was personally touched and moved by the story... I cant help but remember my growing years differently as some people may consider.... truly it was hard, I was scared... but as I looked back, it was then i realized how much i have conquered.... all those fears of the past are gone... I have earned my family and friends love, the people and the church's respect... and it feels great... it feels good.... it was a long journey... and it's not over yet... but i will continue.... only death will stop me....

MMK "Boarding house"

Watch more here.....

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Saturday, January 17, 2009

Hong Kong activists and Christian legislators clash over inclusion of same-sex cohabitants under Domestic Violence Law

Domestic violence is any type of abusive behaviour by one partner that attempts to gain and maintain control over the other. Domestic violence is when one partner consciously tries to, or does, manipulate and dominate the other. It is about power and control. Domestic violence can take many forms including physical violence, sexual assault, emotional abuse or social or financial control. Abuse does not have to be physical or sexual to be domestic violence. From Another Closet: Domestic Violence in gay and lesbian relationships (ACON)

A government proposal to include same sex cohabitants to be covered under the Domestic Violence Law has attracted fierce opposition from Christian legislators, HongKong's Catholic Church and Christian organizations.

Speaking at a public hearing of the Legislative Council's Panel on Welfare Services on Saturday, Secretary for Labour and Welfare, Matthew Cheung Kin-chung reiterated that the proposal was "only relevant to the policy area of domestic violence, and it enables same-sex cohabitants to apply under the ordinance to the court for an injunction order against molestation by their cohabiting partners." He stressed that the inclusion is to provide civil remedies to the victims concerned and does not confer any legal status to same-sex relationships.

His comments come as Christian groups and Christian legislators made known his opposition to the bill in recent weeks.

Although the Democratic Party had pledged in the legislature election last September that all their legislators would vote in favour of the bill, Wong Sing-chi, a Protestant legislator, has publicly opposed the bill. Himself and several other Catholic and Protestant legislators of the Democratic Party have also asked to be exempted from voting for the current bill.

Wong said in a radio interview on Jan 3 that although he does not oppose giving protection to same-sex couples, he objects to using the word "family" in the Chinese version of the law as it might lead to the legalisation of same-sex marriage. He suggested using "home" or "household" instead of "family."

His suggestion has been rejected by the government countering that the scope of "household" is too broad given that violence involving some people living under the same roof, such as between landlords and tenants, has never been regarded as domestic violence.

Cheung explained: "The proposal is made after taking into consideration the intimate relationship between same-sex cohabitants, as in the relationship between heterosexual cohabitants, which might entail similar special power interface, dynamics and risk factors and render the victims reluctant to report to the Police the abusers' acts of violence and seek redress under the criminal legislative framework.”

The Domestic Violence Ordinance, which was enacted in 1986, covers married couples and heterosexual cohabitants. In August last year, an amendment to the ordinance extended coverage to former spouses or cohabitants, as well as immediate and extended family members.

Cardinal Joseph Zen Ze-kiun of Hong Kong said in a press statement on Jan 5 that inclusion of same-sex couples in the law would "definitely lead to a misunderstanding or misinterpretation of the concepts of marriage and family, thereby undermining the foundation of our society.” He also warned that "distorted concepts of marriage and family will bring about other serious consequences."

The cardinal further commented that the Democratic Party has taken the "undemocratic" action of not allowing Wong to vote according to his conscience, according to the Union of Catholic Asian News web site.

A number of Legislative Council Members urged the Administration to further extend the scope of the ordinance to include same-sex cohabitants when the Domestic Violence (Amendment) Bill 2007 was introduced into the Legislative Council to extend the scope of the ordinance to cover former spouses and former heterosexual cohabitants. The Administration then undertook to further amend the ordinance to include in its coverage same-sex cohabitants in the 2008-09 legislative session.

Activists at Democratic Party's office protesting certain legislators' opposition of the amendment which seeks to include same-sex cohabitants in the Domestic Violence Law


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Friday, January 16, 2009

Man of the Day - Gino dela Pena




Gino dela Pena, 26, recently appeared in Mc Donald's Pinoy 2009 Commercial - 90's Style Huling El Bimbo

Mc Donalds commercial


more of Gino..... check his profile at www.friendster.com

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Thursday, January 15, 2009

INDIE FILM - SAGWAN..



February 4 @ UP Diliman Film Institute
and
February 11-17 @ Robinson Galeria Movie World

Sinehan Digitales, the countrys most prodigious producer of gay, lesbian and queer media products with its trailblazing indie gay and lesbian videos Duda, Bathhouse, Quick Trip, Retaso and Showboyz is currently organizing the First QUEERIOSITY INTERNATIONAL FILM FESTIVAL in Manila, Iloilo and several other cities in the Philippines.

FULL TRAILER OF SAGWAN..

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MICHAEL JACKSON CONVERTS TO ISLAM


SUN EXCLUSIVE: MICHAEL JACKSON has become a Muslim - and changed his name to Mikaeel

The skint superstar, 50, donned Islamic garb to pledge allegiance to the Koran in a ceremony at a pal's mansion in Los Angeles, The Sun can reveal.

Jacko sat on the floor wearing a tiny hat after an Imam was summoned to officiate - days before the singer is due to appear at London's High Court where he is being sued by an Arab sheik.

A source told last night how Jacko, brought up as a Jehovah's Witness, decided to convert as he used a studio at the home of his chum to record a new album.

The star - whose hits include The Way You Make Me Feel - was spotted looking "a bit down" by a producer and a songwriter who had both embraced Islam.

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Behind the scene of Lady Dior with Marion Cotillard



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Secret Obsession by Calvin Klein


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Gay women get battered at children's school.

November 3rd, 2008, a broad daylight attack on 2 gay women who went to pick up their children at school. The so called "man" was arrested and released that same day. Free till court in December. The victims are still battered, bruised and stitched. The children are still frightened. Afraid to go to school. Afraid to go to sleep. Their own personal prison. The healing process is long and slow

It takes not only a coward but a lesser species of man to assault women. I've come to the conclusion that the so called "man" that physically attacked my girlfriend and I is a sick, pathetic excuse for a human being. My best estimated guess at his height is 6'4"+, and approximately 250 lbs+. We stand a towering 5'2" each. I honestly think that the heathen is so very much insecure in his own "manhood" that he felt he was justified in battering 2 women that are in love, confident and clearly with superior intelligence.

I will start at the beginning...

on Monday November 3, 2008, we went to pick up our children at school. When we arrived I began speaking to a friend who was leaning in my vehicle passenger window, my girlfriend got out of the vehicle to approach our child that came out of the school first and to help our child into the truck. Now, pay attention please because what you are about to read will not only enrage you but nauseate you as well.
This so called "man" approached my girlfriend and asked her "Which one of you 2 "men" spoke to my kid?" My girlfriend responded by telling him she had no idea as to what he was talking bout because we just got there and asked him who the HELL he was calling a MAN?? He said "yeah I said which one of you 2 "men" spoke to my f***in kid you f***kin DYKE LESBIANS." My girlfriends only response was to retaliate with a verbal insult of "go f**k yourself you ignorant pig!!" That was the moment when this so called "man" slid even farther down the evolutionary scale. He spit in my girlfriends face and when she went to wipe it off he hauled off and punched her in the face and knocked her flying backward into her truck then went forward to continue. I guess I should mention at this time that my girlfriend is DISABLED with
a BROKEN SPINE!!

I came running at this time and screamed for "it" to get off her and I told him he was going to jail because he just assaulted a woman. (Here is where I make mention of 2 of the most brave and beautiful people I have had the pleasure of dealing with, you most definitely know who you are!!!! The 3rd we are still desperately trying to identify.) A man of higher caliber came to our rescue and shouldered this "man" off of and away from my girlfriend and asked him what the hell he was doing beating up women and then a very brave woman tried valiantly to intervene and stop the injustice! Now, remember I came running screaming and this "man" turned, hauled off, swung and bashed my face bursting my cheek. The blood came fast and it was everywhere.

Through this whole devastating ordeal our child was watching in horror. So were the children of this so called "man". So were the children of the school, and their parents and probably some spectators from the homes across the street. Our other 2 children came out and were just as horrified as the rest. I can still hear the all of them screaming for us and wanting to know if we were okay. Thank you to our friends who took our 3 traumatized children home (you know who you are and we will forever be in your debt). We were taken to the hospital by 2 great EMS technicians and given great care in Xray and I received 3 stitches in my right cheek which is swollen almost twice the size.

This so called "man" was arrested without incident and charged with 2 counts of assault causing bodily harm. We were informed that during the time he was in the principal's office waiting for the police that he honestly thought he had done nothing wrong in beating up 2 women. He thought he was going to go home. He did.
He was released from custody last night (@10pm ish). For those of you who know who he is, he's at home, with his kids, his wife, clearly no worse for wear and we sit battered, badly bruised and in my girlfriends case with terrible pain in her back from bouncing off her vehicle. I sit here stupefied and honestly a little scared. Scared for maybe the next woman, women, children and whomever else this so called "man" thinks he can batter because of his own inferior intelligence and or insecurities.

I want to say that this could have happened to anyone but this "man" targeted us "fuckin dyke bitches" (this was the phrase that we heard a few times yesterday) because he thought he could. He thought that he would confront us and we would just tuck our tails between our legs and take it. I'm afraid that he was sadly mistaken. Very mistaken. Not only are we waiting for the criminal trial
but we plan to take this further as a civil matter. So, please don't pretend you don't see violence against women and please don't turn a blind eye ever to hate crimes.

Thank you to every one of the fantastic human beings who helped us yesterday, to everyone that stayed and recorded what they saw, and thank you to the special staff at the school who not only showed care and concern for us and our children but for all the children at school. We will never forget, as long as any and every one affected by this never forgets either. Thank you again. We will continue to inform.

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Gay Icon - Renee Salud on vacation









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Angelica and Derek Inseparable





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KC Concepcion Performs on Sharon's Birthday Celebration 2008 & 2009


I think KC is ready for a variety show of her own.... don't yah think?

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Sunday, January 11, 2009

Billy Crawford RP's Sexiest







Billy Crawford (born Billy Joe Crawford on May 16, 1982)[1] is an American musician and actor with musical influences from R&B, pop, and soul. Crawford became known in Europe and Asia with song titles such as "When You Think About Me", "Never My Love", "Steamy Nights"[2] and "Bright Lights". Crawford is multilingual, being fluent in two Philippine languages, his native Tagalog as well as Cebuano. His second language is American English and he is conversational in French. Crawford has lived in New York City, USA, and in Paris for five years and for one year in London. He currently resides in Los Angeles as of 2007. In 2008, he went to Manila to host Pinoy Dream Academy's uberture. He has also hosted the prestigious Miss Earth 2008 held in the Philippines. More.....

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Friday, January 9, 2009

The 100 Greatest, Gayest Albums (of All Time)


The ballots have been cast. The gay experts have spoken. Herewith, the trailblazers: the best gay albums of all time.










see full list here....

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Thursday, January 8, 2009

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

JEREMY SCOTT NEW COLLECTION (a revolution)



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Calvin KLEIN mon amour



more at www.calvinklein.com

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3G iPhone gold & diamonds

Must have this month for the fashion week! The 24 carat gold 3G iPhone at $800 for the 8gb gold edition and rise to 2000 euros for the 24ct gold & diamond edition.

The Apple Logo will house 53 cut bright white diamonds totaling 0,36 carat in weight. And you can ask with saphire and diamonds! so chic for show off at Palais M club...

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Angel Locsin recalls love scene with Piolo Pascual


"Ito na yata ang pinakamasayang job na nagawa ko," says an ecstatic Angel Locsin regarding Love Me Again (Land down under), her first movie under Star Cinema... she appeared relaxed and confident even though the actress was about to answer The Buzz's tough ten question during the January 4 episode of the show.... more stories on PEP

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Saturday, January 3, 2009

Parekoy - Afternoon Laugh

Afar from the usual boring afternoon soap, this is something new and interesting to look forward to from Abs-Cbn... judging from its trailer, i think Parekoy would be a great afternoon laugh and comedy show.....

click here for more pic of Parekoy....

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Sweet Christine on Maxim

Cristine is just what the doctor asked for. She’s silky smooth, with curves that will take you to seventh heaven. She’s a sultry seductress with her mean and devilish eyes but transforms into a bubbly cute girl with her smile alone.

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Chatroom

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